When Mitchell dumped me on my ass, everything became clear. All I wanted to do was tell everyone what a jerk Mitchell was for pulling the rug out from under me. Once again the author uses poetry, as well as blog entries and to-do lists to tell her story. A California Bookwatch contributor noted the book's "caustic humor. Cite this article Pick a style below, and copy the text for your bibliography.
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We have to choose to keep trying, to keep reading, to keep searching for new techniques, new understandings and a better way of looking at things. We do not have complete control over our lives but we have more control than we think, at least more than I think. I am taking your words to heart and beginning again to look for an answer, a way to once again find hope and make a decision to keep on keeping on. Great article and one that rings true for me. I faced many challenges and social-economic disadvantages. I have to admit that it is not hard for me to focus on the positive and have always seen my cup as half full and I am naturally very optimistic.
Attitude has so much to do with how we deal with our circumstances and to a certain extent it even affects what happens in our life. So if we have a negative outlook on life and surround ourself with negative people you can count on having many negative expereinces. As a business coach you should always push your client towards the path of positivity. Just my thought. Really great post! Kathy, congratulations on your identification of the traits that help folks become better not bitter.
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In fact, one of our major tasks growing up is to identify the character traits of the people we admire and then strive to acquire those traits in building our own character. I voted for your website during the July Coaching Mastery Contest because you are well grounded, with your focus on going after real values in the real world. Thank you for giving me a site I can admire and learn from!
Thank, Terry, for your very kind words. I appreciate them. I love that and hope I live up to it. With gratitude…K. The most important thing is to recognize your own contributions to a problem and willingness to change. It takes efforts to change yourself but with positive attitude it can be done..
The challenges of life offers a lot of opportunities and the outcome depends how you handle and manage them. We must learn from life experiences, good or bad, and bring positive changes to get the best out of it. Keep your life simple, easy with a positive attitude. Thank you for the advice.
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Bitterness is taking over my life. I cry everyday. Im hurt. I dont know how to be friends or make a friend. Its bard to trust and its hard to love when all you know is hurt.
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All best wishes. You seem to be telling yourself off. Perhaps you could or need to start being kinder to yourself? Perhaps you could start to say kind things to yourself and other people and let yourself know that you deserve to be treated kindly. Hang around with good kind people if you can or do something kind for a stranger.
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Overly cynical — Having a healthy dose of cynicism can be a good thing. Cynicism creates a pause and space to examine options, weigh pros and cons, and ask questions before deciding on a best solution. However, bitter people may take cynicism to a new level. Cynicism becomes a primary response instead of a useful tool.
If you find yourself drifting to this level of cynicism, you can resolve it by remembering how you see the world is a reflection of your past experiences. You, and only you, get to decide if you want to carry negative experiences with you and what level of control they have over your life. Being jealous — There is someone you know that is better than you.
This person is better looking, has more money, has perfect children with perfect teeth, has a better house, and incredible cars. Just know, while you are thinking about this perfect person, there are probably a few people that think your life is perfect and better than theirs insert laughter here! Feeling a twinge of jealously on occasion is normal, however when it creeps in to the point of obsessive thoughts, it can create bitterness.
Instead of allowing jealousy to consume your thoughts and time, let it act as motivation for creating and accomplishing your goals. Spend some time asking yourself what you truly want. You may be surprised that your goals look nothing like what you were feeling jealous about. Holding grudges — Holding a grudge allows a situation or person to have mastery and control over your thoughts and behaviors.
Grudges lead to anger and soon become a part of you. Now multiply your total by zero and that is the amount of time this person has spent worrying about their misstep. Attention seeking — Bitter people seldom shy from the spotlight.
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They seek attention by telling their story to anyone who will listen, because they want reassurance that they have been treated unfair. You may have occasions when you are upset and just need a sounding board to help you sort through your feelings. But how is having a sounding board different than attention seeking? A sounding board is usually a single confidant who will listen to your complaint and then tell you if you are overreacting or have a legitimate grief.
If you must talk about a situation, reach out to your confidant and share, get feedback and then figure out your own best solution. Telling everyone you know about your plight will not solve your problems, however it can make you the person to avoid at parties. Negativity — Bitterness can cause people to see the world through a negative lens.
When we live in negativity every situation is annoying or problematic. This way of seeing the world and people is isolating and creates self-imposed limitations. What side had more entries? What did you observe? Could things from the - column be re-blocked and changed into a positive experience? Bitterness is the residue that unresolved anger leaves behind and keeps you attached to the very thing that creates your discomfort.
Follow the below steps. One could say I was born with a bitter taste in my mouth.
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